IT’S SO HARD TO COMMUNICATE; ONE WORD CAN HAVE SO-MANY-DIFFERENT MEANINGS.
I love you means I like you alot. I miss you means I miss something you do. I need you means I need sex. Your the one means your the one right now. I trust you means I trust as far as I can see. Don’t go means stay until I don’t need you. You hurt my feelings means nothing.
To Hold A Broken Heart In The Palm Of Your Hands: You Will Need Compassion To Carry It With You, Mercy To Repair The Pieces, Patience To Put It Back Together Again & Prayer To Give It New Life, New Hope & A New Beginning.
Everyone has their own faults, shortcomings, imperfections and insecures. Love endures all in wisdom and knowledge.
Jesus, I need your wisdom, guidance and direction. I need Your word to come alive in my life. I need to hear and see You Clearly. I need You to hold my hand and I need to hold Yours. I need healing, peace and love in my life and the lives of my children and those I love. I need You Lord. I need You to be in the places that I go and show me that you were in the places I’ve been. I need You to use me and I need to be used by you. I need to feel loved by You and I need to feel that I’m apart of You. I need Your love to make a difference in my life and others. I need You here with me because someday I want to be there with you Jesus. I need You .
When a go-getter connects an un-motivated mate, it’s like putting a string of bricks around the neck and expected to keep moving forward in life at the same speed. Un-motivate people hold you back or slow you down and they benefit from your gain. It’s stressful trying to reach your goal to benefit you both. Resentment sets in and the distance attitude starts. Some un-motivate people need you to believe in them in order for them to do better; Some un-motivate people don’t know how to be a go-getter (it’s like their minds can’t extend pass a certain point). Some are comfortable being where there are and if you change them, you change who they are.
From My Heart: Rather you are in a relationship or alone, there are things that need to be done to get where you need to be in life. I don’t know what will inspire you to be motivated. I don’t know how to go inside your mind and reprogram it to think or see life in a different way. Just know that life is passing your by.
There are many things that you can learn; many places that you can go; being comfortable doing nothing, you’re missing out on many things. All it takes is prayer, effect, sacrifice of self for others, take a healthy chance on being happy and meeting someone half-way, listen to tapes or read inspiring books.
Your mind is the reason that you’re not being motivated to do anything worth doing. Search your heart, mind and soul to be a better you. Be a blessing to someone when you get the chance. You may not be lazy; it may be a form of depression.
But know this; that God can renew your mind and your way of thinking but you have to want Him too.
How do I explain the need to be one with you; When the only oneness he know is being married, getting along and feeling good together. I need an oneness that doesn’t normally exist between two people. But I can’t ask something that you don’t believe that a man can do: Be honest, hold no secrets, be faithful, and always tell me the truth and don’t hurt me anymore. Be someone that I can trust, need, care for and know that I’m cared for. Love me pass your selfishness, pride, hardness and insecurity. Love me pass your ego, hurtful past and single man’s ways that comfort you. Be one with me in mind, body, spirit, soul, in heart, emotions and in life. Being one every day and everyday should be filled with loving me. I can’t ask something of you that you have never known… Oneness in love.
I only needed you to help me get from point A to point B. Things happen in life that cannot be controlled, storms comes and things change. When I said that I needed you, I didn’t mean that you would be my source of living for life. You treated me as if I was a beggar, a user… less than a woman because I needed you. Isn’t a woman suppose to need a man and be able to depend on him. I didn’t ask anything of you that I wouldn’t have done a thousand times for you. And you know this with all your heart and soul.
Did I not give to you from the little that I had when I needed, you did not give? Did I not care for you still when you cared for me not? Knowing you could helped and you didn’t raise a finger to save me, I saved you.
Now, that I’m on my feet and doing well, you want to be back in my life again I-Don’t-Think-So
The word “Need’ has many definitions but it’s perceived from the same meaning…. Negative: I need you- She/He just wants to use me. I need you- He/She is trying to take advantage of a situation. I need you- She/He is just a gold digger. I need you- He/She is too weak minded, needy and incapable of taking care of them-selves. I need you- She/He has a hidden agenda or selfish motives. I need you- He/She just need my money so I can get whatever I want in return. I need you- She/He will hold me back from where I’m trying to go.
From My Heart Having to need someone, feels so bad inside sometimes: To need means, that you have no rights to have. To need, your self-esteem and self-worth are questionable. You expect the judgment and distrust. You expect the distant affection because He/She doesn’t want to get to close –love blinds the eyes. You expect the watchful eyes and un-ending questions about your where-abouts, spending, intentions and plans. You expect the tit-for-tat treatment. You expect you’re giving to be weighed by their standards and selfishness. You expect to be treated like the weaker vessel in your home, in society, in the system, around family and friends. Needing someone makes you human, humbles your heart even in humiliation and it teaches you to how NOT treat people. Needing people gives them a chance to do right in God’s eyes and be blessed in their giving. But needing someone who isn’t there for you, gives God a chance to show you the most amazing love, comfort and mercy that you will ever know. Needing makes you appreciate the good people that come your way and the beautiful things that you can afford in the future.
An impatient person need things to happen fast; Never enough time; Short sighted-never considering the outcome or other; a rush to be pleased or be satisfied as if the chance will never come again; anxiety feelings teasing the mind with what if’s, so they have to re-act right now, have it right now, do it right now, know it right now, see it right now, hear it right now, feel it right now. Your needs and wants are the only thing that matters in that moment…there is no peace in being impatient.
From My Heart: Impatient people have to realize that, some things take time and if you lose it, it was never yours. You can’t make some things happen as fast as you would like. Maybe you rush things because you need it to happen in order to believe that it’s real. You can’t rush things, especially when it involves other people lives. You have to learn to respect the slowness of others, the time frame of others and the mind of others. Being impatient is rude and selfish on your part. Everything is not just about you.
With Me, when you’re impatient with me I can’t find the right things to say I can’t think clearly to prove my point. When you’re impatient with me It hurts my heart and makes me sad It makes me feel like I let you down. When you’re impatient with me I try harder but I only end up making more mistakes
I’m confused and frustrated with you and myself when you’re impatient with me. It means you don’t believe in me and not believing in me, makes it impossible for me to believe in myself. When you’re impatient with me I don’t feel your love. My self-worth is worthless when you’re impatient with me.
When you’re impatient with me, you’re being impatient with us
Hearing/Listening: You can listen to anyone speak but do you really hear what they are trying to say. Most people listen but at the same time, they are thinking about what they want to say to you, which is not listening at all. When you listen to someone talk, you need to let that person complete their part of the conversation and then speak based on what you have heard, which shows them that you were really listen. On the other hand, the person doing the talking has to learn to speak about one thing at a time and let the other person comment on that one thing and then go to the next part of the conversation. Separate your feelings to be dealt with one by one. It takes a heart to talk. It takes a heart to listen. It also takes a willing heart to hear.
Talk (communicate) to resolve a situation. Listen to each other to be closer in your relationship. If you love each other, care enough to listen to what each other has to say. Care about the fact, that someone took the time to tell you how they feel. Listen to hear their heart. Listen when you don’t want to listen by adjusting your heart to care. Listen to Change yourself for the sake of love. Listen to your mate to have peace in your home.
Consideration: * Don’t talk to hear yourself listen- how can you hear what is being said. *Don’t cut someone off in the middle of expressing how they feel,-that’s rude. If you don’t listen, how are they supposed to feel important to you * Don’t turn away, shout down or get distance every time he/’she try to make you understand that your driving them crazy- because they’re trying to put up with your non-sense. * Don’t ignore a heart that is trying to express their hurt… try giving them a safe place to pour out their feelings. * Don’t be a selfish-listener by saying what you want to say and then walking away, never giving the other person a chance to express how they feel to avoid listening.
People Emotional people are very in touch with their spirit; very in tune to everything around them; sensitive to the actions of others. Emotional people need more comforting than any one person can give. We often try to (un-knowingly) control a person with our feelings or emotions, wanting someone to take responsibility for how we feel and do something about it. Sometimes emotions alter the outcome of relationships, plans and goals. Emotions seem to be a result of reasons, the outcome of a fear or expressing a need. It’s not childish to express emotions as a re-action. There are reasons for emotions.
From My Heart: Emotions should not run your life. Emotions should not control your every move or decision. You shouldn’t make a decision based on emotions. Most people really don’t care how you feel but don’t take it personal, that’s life. When you want to communicate your feelings and people label them as “Drama” or “You’re Sooo Emotional: I suggest that you keep your emotions to yourself. Emotions cloud judgment, sight and heart.
Advice to emotional people: Just like you have a right to feel what you please, the other person has a right to feel differently or not feel at all. When you allow your heart to feel or allow your emotions to get the best of you, remember your emotions are your responsibility. You can’t make someone care about how you feel.