Wisdom Notes-31

Someone Asked Me, How Do I Raise Good Children? How Do Teach Them Respect & To Obey? How Do You Raise Them The Right Way?

No Parent is Perfect. Answer: 1. The Bible says to raise a child in the way that they should go; Raise them in the word and to fear God, to know God.  2. I don’t care how hard you try to be a good Parent to your child…. you wouldn’t see what you did wrong until their Grown. Then, it’s too late to remold them.

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It Blesses My Heart To Love; It Blesses My Soul To Give; It Blesses My Everything To Care About Others & Being Needed Gives My Life Purpose.

I learned the hard way that my love, my giving, my caringness and my need to be needed was hindering certain People and getting in the way of God’s plan for their lives. I became their god and my God held my blessings up to keep me from hindering them.

God wanted a chance to show them how much he loved them if only they would trust in Him.

Being One

Poetry

How do I explain the need to be one with you; When the only oneness he know is being married, getting along and feeling good together. I need an oneness that doesn’t normally exist between two people. But I can’t ask something that you don’t believe that a man can do: Be honest, hold no secrets, be faithful, and always tell me the truth and don’t hurt me anymore. Be someone that I can trust, need, care for and know that I’m cared for. Love me pass your selfishness, pride, hardness and insecurity. Love me pass your ego, hurtful past and single man’s ways that comfort you. Be one with me in mind, body, spirit, soul, in heart, emotions and in life. Being one every day and everyday should be filled with loving me. I can’t ask something of you that you have never known… Oneness in love.

Being Sensitive

Human Sensitive: Being sensitive has become viewed as a weakness or fault. People often make fun or criticize those that are sensitive. Spiritual Sensitive: You are sensitive to the things seen and not seen. Your spiritual feelings exist as a 6-Sense.

From My Heart: Being sensitive, caring about the feelings of others; portraying emotions that show how much you care; being sensitive to the needs of others; showing sympathy when people need it the most; being sensitive to words un-spoken. Empathy taken to a whole different level: To be able to know or sense things that no one else can, being able to see things that shouldn’t exist, to be able to feel people’s hurt or pain, to able to feel when something is wrong, see through a lie is a blessing not a curse. Embrace your Gift. God made your heart to care and he made you differently. If being sensitive is who you are, be secure in yourself and be compassionate. Compassion is what causes you to be able to powering in knowing. Use all Gifts wisely.

PMS

PMS is a man’s worst nightmare; a pain in the butt and an emotional roller coaster for the children.

From My Heart: We as woman are multi-talented; mother, wife, working women, maids, doctors, cooks, counselors, bed warmers and head of the home in an imaginary kind of way. We hold things in and do what must be done.

All PMS is, is a woman venting; the things that she held in all month long; speaking the things that bothered her from day one of that month; or maybe, it’s that moment when she realizes that, she have taken care of everyone else and there is no one to take care of her; it that moment when her body/hormones are going crazy inside and she’s trying to function normally but she’s had enough.

PMS is the silence before the storm; all the tears she held in; all the worries that no one cared about but her. Sometimes, severe PMS is physical or mental and medication is needed.

Hear/Listen/Talk

Hearing/Listening: You can listen to anyone speak but do you really hear what they are trying to say. Most people listen but at the same time, they are thinking about what they want to say to you, which is not listening at all. When you listen to someone talk, you need to let that person complete their part of the conversation and then speak based on what you have heard, which shows them that you were really listen. On the other hand, the person doing the talking has to learn to speak about one thing at a time and let the other person comment on that one thing and then go to the next part of the conversation. Separate your feelings to be dealt with one by one. It takes a heart to talk. It takes a heart to listen. It also takes a willing heart to hear.

Talk (communicate) to resolve a situation. Listen to each other to be closer in your relationship. If you love each other, care enough to listen to what each other has to say. Care about the fact, that someone took the time to tell you how they feel. Listen to hear their heart. Listen when you don’t want to listen by adjusting your heart to care. Listen to Change yourself for the sake of love. Listen to your mate to have peace in your home.

Consideration: * Don’t talk to hear yourself listen- how can you hear what is being said. *Don’t cut someone off in the middle of expressing how they feel,-that’s rude. If you don’t listen, how are they supposed to feel important to you * Don’t turn away, shout down or get distance every time he/’she try to make you understand that your driving them crazy- because they’re trying to put up with your non-sense. * Don’t ignore a heart that is trying to express their hurt… try giving them a safe place to pour out their feelings. * Don’t be a selfish-listener by saying what you want to say and then walking away, never giving the other person a chance to express how they feel to avoid listening.

Emotional

People Emotional people are very in touch with their spirit; very in tune to everything around them; sensitive to the actions of others. Emotional people need more comforting than any one person can give. We often try to (un-knowingly) control a person with our feelings or emotions, wanting someone to take responsibility for how we feel and do something about it. Sometimes emotions alter the outcome of relationships, plans and goals. Emotions seem to be a result of reasons, the outcome of a fear or expressing a need. It’s not childish to express emotions as a re-action. There are reasons for emotions.

From My Heart: Emotions should not run your life. Emotions should not control your every move or decision. You shouldn’t make a decision based on emotions. Most people really don’t care how you feel but don’t take it personal, that’s life. When you want to communicate your feelings and people label them as “Drama” or “You’re Sooo Emotional: I suggest that you keep your emotions to yourself. Emotions cloud judgment, sight and heart.

Advice to emotional people: Just like you have a right to feel what you please, the other person has a right to feel differently or not feel at all. When you allow your heart to feel or allow your emotions to get the best of you, remember your emotions are your responsibility. You can’t make someone care about how you feel.

Time to say goodbye

Poetry
Time To Say Goodbye: When it’s all over between us and there’s no sun hiding behind the clouds. When our ears stop listening and our eyes forget to see what we once work so hard to keep. When there are no feelings left to care, no mercy left to give and no strength to keep trying. When all that is left is the memory of pain and pointed fingers Lord, please give us the courage to say goodbye in peace. When everything has been given and there is nothing else to take. When all the conversations are expressed in arguments, disrespect and frustration. When accomplishments become tarnished, our success becomes our failures. When everything done, can’t be forgiven and everything said cannot be taken back, I pray Lord, that You will have mercy and heal both our hearts and allow time to pass quickly Or have mercy to help us walk away with a sweet goodbye.

Cheaters

Cheaters The faithful cheater is someone who cheats every now and then, so that a pattern or trail isn’t notice.

Seasonal cheaters (it depend on the weather to determine their mood for being unfaithful). The Spring & Summer are the best times; body parts of the opposite sex are exposed.

The Rich Cheater –because he/she is the provider (takes care of home) that justifies the right to cheat; Money gives them the right to do as they please, when they want, with whom they want to do it with. They give things as substitute for love, affection and emotional support. Cheating is a mere hobby or a pass time.

Old School Cheaters, which are the long-term cheater, everyone accepts the fact that there is someone else and they all know about each other. The lovin is good, everybody is satisfied and as long as he’s providing for all and supplying the goods, women share him fairly.

The Dog – He/She couldn’t be faithful is their lives depended on it. No “One” man or woman is enough. He/She don’t need a reason or motivate to cheat, it comes natural. He/She has no regret and no need to apologize if caught in the act of unfaithfulness. He/She has no honor or respect for the body, heart, mind or soul of their lovers. The Dog is often driven by past hurt, fear, insecurities, a need to prove things; driven by a hunger that can’t be satisfied. The penis and eyes of a man are like the nose of a dog, always sniffing somebody’s butt. A woman is always needing something to screw rather it’s somebody’s life, a penis or toys.

From My Heart: It takes special and unique people to cheat. It takes skill and organization. You have to be able to justify your wrong, make your wrongs to be right and alter your conscience. There is nothing you can do to make a cheater faithful. Cheating is embedded in the heart and it doesn’t take much for the mind to follow. Allowing that person to stay in your life after the trust has been broken is like keeping an untamed tiger that has already eaten part of your heart.

Be Still

Be Still: In most of our lives, Being Still is not an option: We start our day stressful; work 2 or 3 jobs; work with people that get on your nerves all day long; we take care of family; be there for friends; help strangers; provide for those that are less fortunate; adjust our lives ups and down; hustle to stay afloat; try to find ways to beat the system; try to find loop-holes to get rich; try to make the best out of being where we are in life; raise children the best we can; try to be someone we’re not in order to stay in the game; spreading ourselves thin for the cause.

From My Heart: Some of us never stop to breathe or notice the beautiful things around us; or stop to think of a better way or different way of doing things; or stop to think about how and what we do affect others; or stop to evaluate our situation and make a positive and healthy change; or stop focusing on the wrong things and get our own lives together; or stop getting so wrapped up in drama and try make a different in people’s lives. Be still. Be quite. Sit down in a comfortable/peaceful place and breath. Listen to relaxing music. Learn to rest your mind. Hide from your busy life. Take your watch off and turn the clocks off in the house and clear your schedule. Put the crazy and needy people on hold for a couple of days. Take time to admire things that you never notice before. Take a walk in the park. Sit still and look at a window. Do things that you use to enjoy doing (painting, music, drawing, etc….

Find some peace or something that makes you happy; find things to do alone and enjoy being with yourself. Give your mind and body a rest from YOU. Be still and give God some of your time and take time to listen more than you talk. Learn to let go and let God be God.