Hearing/Listening: You can listen to anyone speak but do you really hear what they are trying to say. Most people listen but at the same time, they are thinking about what they want to say to you, which is not listening at all. When you listen to someone talk, you need to let that person complete their part of the conversation and then speak based on what you have heard, which shows them that you were really listen. On the other hand, the person doing the talking has to learn to speak about one thing at a time and let the other person comment on that one thing and then go to the next part of the conversation. Separate your feelings to be dealt with one by one. It takes a heart to talk. It takes a heart to listen. It also takes a willing heart to hear.

Talk (communicate) to resolve a situation. Listen to each other to be closer in your relationship. If you love each other, care enough to listen to what each other has to say. Care about the fact, that someone took the time to tell you how they feel. Listen to hear their heart. Listen when you don’t want to listen by adjusting your heart to care. Listen to Change yourself for the sake of love. Listen to your mate to have peace in your home.

Consideration: * Don’t talk to hear yourself listen- how can you hear what is being said. *Don’t cut someone off in the middle of expressing how they feel,-that’s rude. If you don’t listen, how are they supposed to feel important to you * Don’t turn away, shout down or get distance every time he/’she try to make you understand that your driving them crazy- because they’re trying to put up with your non-sense. * Don’t ignore a heart that is trying to express their hurt… try giving them a safe place to pour out their feelings. * Don’t be a selfish-listener by saying what you want to say and then walking away, never giving the other person a chance to express how they feel to avoid listening.

Controlling You

I tried to control you in us, for us. I tried to control what I didn’t understand. I tried to control what I was afraid of, losing you. You were the bird that stood in the palm of my hands. I held your feet to keep you from flying away from me, from us. I tried to be the god over us and take us in my own hands. I tried to control our future and our love. I tried to breathe and think for the both of us. You were all I saw, felt and thought about I couldn’t see me; I couldn’t see life without you, without us. I tried to secure what we shared by controlling our everyday. I tried to think for you and make the right decisions for us. I tried to control us because I was afraid of losing you I controlled you right out my life.

Poetry: He gave his heart away

He Gave His Heart Away He gave his heart away and there is nothing left for me I can’t sail a ship without an ocean I can’t pour love into a cup that has no bottom I can’t fly a kite if there is no wind I can’t feed a man love if he won’t eat I can’t touch him if he doesn’t want to feel I can’t reach him if he doesn’t want to be near me He gave his heart away and there is no way to love a half-hearted man